The Green-Eyed Monster
Understanding and managing feelings of jealousy
Emma loved her best friend Lily more than anyone in the world. They did everything together - played at recess, shared snacks, and had sleepovers every weekend.
But one Monday morning, everything changed. Emma saw Lily laughing and playing with Maya, the new girl in their class. They were sharing Maya's special art supplies and seemed to be having the best time ever.
Emma felt something strange and uncomfortable growing in her chest. It felt hot and twisty, like a knot that kept getting tighter. Her face felt warm, and she wanted to march over and tell Maya to go away.
"What's wrong with me?" Emma wondered. She had never felt this way before.
At lunch, Lily invited Maya to sit with them. Emma watched as Lily and Maya talked about their favorite books and discovered they both loved the same series. Emma felt that twisty feeling again, even stronger this time.
"I don't like Maya," Emma announced suddenly. "She's... she's not very nice."
Lily looked surprised. "But Emma, Maya is really kind. She shared her art supplies with everyone this morning."
Emma knew Lily was right, but she couldn't help how she felt. That evening, she talked to her mom about the strange, uncomfortable feeling.
"It sounds like you might be feeling jealous, sweetheart," Mom said gently.
"Jealous? What's that?"
"Jealousy is when we worry that someone else might take something or someone important away from us. Sometimes people call it 'the green-eyed monster' because it can make us feel and act in ways we don't like."
Emma thought about this. "So I'm jealous because I'm worried Maya will take Lily away from me?"
"That sounds right. And you know what? Feeling jealous is completely normal. Everyone feels it sometimes."
"Even you, Mom?"
"Even me. When I was your age, I felt jealous when my best friend made a new friend. I was worried she wouldn't want to be my friend anymore."
"What did you do?"
"Well, first I learned that friendships aren't like toys - they don't break when you share them. In fact, they often get stronger! Your heart has room for many friends, and so does Lily's."
Emma considered this. "So Lily can be friends with Maya AND still be my best friend?"
"Exactly! And here's something wonderful - when you have more friends, you have more fun, more people to help you, and more people to share happy times with."
The next day, Emma decided to try something different. Instead of avoiding Maya, she walked up to her and Lily at recess.
"Hi Maya," Emma said, taking a deep breath. "Would you like to play our favorite game with us?"
Maya's face lit up. "I'd love to! What's your favorite game?"
As they played together, Emma discovered that Maya was funny, kind, and loved many of the same things she did. The twisty feeling in her chest began to loosen and disappear.
"You know what?" Emma told her mom that evening. "Having Maya as a friend too makes everything more fun. We have even better adventures now!"
"That's wonderful, Emma. You learned something very important - that love and friendship grow when we share them, they don't shrink."
From that day on, whenever Emma felt that green-eyed monster starting to grow, she remembered what her mom taught her. She would take deep breaths, remind herself that there's always enough love and friendship to go around, and look for ways to include others instead of pushing them away.
And the best part? Emma, Lily, and Maya became an amazing trio of friends, having adventures and making memories that were even better than anything Emma could have imagined.
Think Together:
- • How did Emma feel when she saw Lily playing with Maya?
- • What did Emma's mom teach her about jealousy?
- • How did Emma's feelings change when she included Maya?
- • Can you think of a time when you felt jealous?
- • What are some ways to handle jealous feelings?
Jealousy is a normal feeling that everyone experiences
Friendships grow stronger when we share them
Including others can turn jealousy into friendship
There's always enough love and friendship to go around
Friendship Circle
Draw yourself in the center, then draw all your friends around you in a big circle.
Jealousy Journal
Write about times you felt jealous and how you handled those feelings.
Include Someone New
Practice inviting someone new to join your games or activities.

